Cosmopolitan: The everyday habits killing women’s sex drives — and how to fix it

…

“She realised that her lowered interest in sex was partly because she’d stopped enjoying the sex she was having. “The most important thing was dropping the ‘should’s,” reflects Jessie. “By which I mean, no longer focusing on what I ‘should’ look like or how I ‘should’ act during sex, [or how often I ‘should’ be having sex and with who]. I had to learn to lead with what felt good for my body, rather than with the unhelpful thoughts in my head.”